In Gate 13, the Earth is asking each one of us to look at where we create an enemy out of our differences rather than a friend out of our common ground. It also asks us to examine who we are spending our time with, are we intent on fighting our own inner conflicts by projecting them out into the world and struggling with the people we project them onto? We all do this, it’s how we are designed to see our lost aspects of self – we all help each other in this way. The problem comes when we forget the service those who carry our projections are offering us. And when we get caught up in shadow boxing and forget to move on and find the people with whom we have a common vision. These people click with us, and everything suddenly becomes easy.

-- Kim Gould, Aspects of the Heart